Last week was kind of a rough/full week. I started writing the Tuesday Talk for Called Session 3, but before I knew it... it was Tuesday again. So last week we talked about Submission. The lesson was 100% based on a blog I wrote on the same subject as part of the series "The 40 Year Old." HERE is the link to that blog. (Consider this last Tuesday's Talk).
Before I get into this weeks Tuesday Talk, I need to confess. I didn't write this. I tweaked it a little, but it's mainly the same lesson that Sean Brink (Leads theSHIFT) taught during Every Guy's Orders (EGO). As I tried to figure out what we would talk about in Called, I couldn't escape the fact that we're getting ready to start a new series at Element Church directed towards men, aptly named The Man Series, and this was the perfect time to talk about the way we talk. Because, let's face it, we can sit in church on Sunday and listen to a sermon about being salt and light, Jesus' ambassador and acting like God's Children, but that sermon is proven in the way we act the rest of the week, around others that don't know Jesus. So here's this week's Tuesday Talk...
One of the most important things we need to know that what we say has the power to tear people down and has the power to build them up. The way we talk to, about, and around others is fully determined by how active our relationship is with Jesus and whether or not we are submitted to Him.
James 3:9-11 says, "With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. 11Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring?"
Basically, some of us sit in church on Sunday and belt out every lyric of the worship song, then come Monday hurl every obscenity we can think of at "our" team for not completing a pass during the game. A lot of guys need to not open our mouths until we learn how to use them. We often fail to realize or ignore that what we say effects people because our tongue is a mighty thing.
James 3:3-8 explains that strength. It says, "When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships, as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell. All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by man, but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison."
With our mouth, we tell crude jokes, sexual innuendos, cursing, and swearing. It's not okay and shouldn't be a part of us. As I mentioned, we (Element Church) are getting ready to start a series where potentially lots of guys will be coming. THIS IS WHERE WE BECOME THE EXAMPLE! This is where we shine as lights, flavor as salt, be Jesus’ ambassadors and act as God’s own Children.
Here's what the bible says about what not to say:
Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.
Above all, my brothers, do not swear—not by heaven or by earth or by anything else. Let your "Yes" be yes, and your "No," no, or you will be condemned.
Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies.
Most of us know what not to say, so what then should we say? Here's what should pour from our mouths.
1. Words of encouragement
But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness.
Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled.
2.Words of truth
1 Peter 4: 11
If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God.
3.Words of praise
My tongue will speak of your righteousness and of your praises all day long.
I cried out to him with my mouth; his praise was on my tongue.
I can't close this without speaking to husbands. If you're married or have kids, this is where leadership starts for you. What you say to your family matters.
To your wife - She needs to hear that she is lovely. That she is brilliant and desirable and that your eyes are for her and her alone. Affirm her and reassure her. I heard a pastor say once that it is your job to prepare her to hand her to Jesus one day.
To your sons - He needs to know that they are good enough. You need to tell them they can do all things through Christ.
To your daughters - She needs to know that she is a jewel in her King's crown. That she is worthy of pursuit.
- Pray for The Man Series and Element's 4th Service starting on October 2nd
Put into Practice:
Pay attention to what you say. Make it a point, at least once a day, to speak a word of encouragement, a word of truth and a word of praise.